Episode 176: Challenge #6 – The Love Bomb
A billion things have been written about love. We know we want to feel loved. We know love makes the world go round. The answer is always love. Love/Laugh/Live. Love begets love. There is nothing we want or need more than love. We do crazy things for love. It IS perhaps the greatest human need, but so often the people we love in our lives are not the ones we tell.
Sometimes we assume they already know. Sometimes it’s just awkward. Sometimes we don’t really think about it. But no matter how tough your loved one seems, no matter how confident or unsentimental a person is, everyone would LOVE to feel the love today.
Stay tuned as we do a deep dive into Challenge #6 of the 21 Life connection challenges: The Love Bomb. BECAUSE there will never be a time when your personal relationships don’t matter to your health, happiness and success.
Today’s episode is a part of a series where I go into detail on each of the challenges in my book – LIFE Living Intentional and Fearless Everyday, the 21 Life Connection Challenges – today is all about Challenge #6 .
Just a quick recap –
In episode 12 and 89 I went into some wonderful detail about the process of doing Random Acts of Kindness, which is Challenge # 1 I
In episode 163 I went into detail with Ashley Stuart, a de-clutter expert, and we talked about why challenge #2 – to get rid of one thing you no longer need – is so much more important than this simple act seems on the surface.
In episode 169 I tackled an in-depth on challenge #3 where we looked at what it really means and looks like to find the lesson in something that doesn’t go your way. Again, great stuff with expert Leslie Householder on finding the gratitude and lesson in our trials or disappointments.
In episode episode 171 we got into detail about why Challenge #4 – a life hack I call “Success-file” is so important to living happy.
Challenge #5 was episode 174 where we got real about giving people the benefit of the doubt and why it’s a relationship saver.
Here we are today on Challenge #6 – the Love Bomb. Specifically the challenge is: Choose someone in your life that you love and go all out. Make a phone call or an in-person visit and tell them, in details what you love them and what you love about them. Lavish on that love and give details.
We all know how powerful being loved is, so I won’t spend a bunch of time in this episode going into the “whys” that this challenge works, rather I’ll just share some examples and when this episode is over I hope you’ll be inspired to pick up your phone and test out the challenge.
I want to start with the story of my first love bomb.
The first time I was introduced to the Love Bomb was in 2014. I was in Columbus, Ohio neck deep in my second round of emotional intelligence training and we were given the directive to take the next 15 minutes and go out, find a private place, and call someone we love – someone who needed to hear that we love them, why we love them, and to lavish on the details we so often leave out.
I was very uncomfortable with this, because the person that came to my mind was my sister. My sister wasn’t someone I had connected with in a bit, and certainly not on a touchy feely level. But I tucked away my discomfort in order to meet the challenge head on and made the call. She answered. I told her I loved her. I told her things I admired about her. I talked to her for a bit about the awkwardness of this and even that it was an assignment, but that SHE was the one I felt I needed to call. It went smoothly. It went better than smoothly. I connected with my sister for 15 minutes in a really heart-felt way. And at that time it was something that hadn’t happened in awhile. It made a difference and it felt really good to let words push us closer together.
Sophocles said, “One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is Love.”
Why is Challenge #6 —the Love Bomb? Because the challenges were created to create more connection in our lives and this exercise that I learned in a professional, emotional intelligence training, shatters walls. I watched it happen with the 100 other people in my training as I listened to their testimonials and experiences, and I’ve felt it in my own life. This is why I encourage and challenge you to push past any discomfort that comes up for you around this, and use it in your life as well.
I had one challenge taker who said that after he did this challenge his friends thought he might be dying, everyone was really worried about him. Made me laugh. But it feels good to do it, so once you get the hang of it, you can just keep doing it.
One of the things I like to do in these challenge episodes is share stories from people who have taken the challenge. Here are a couple stories:
Insert Love Bomb stories: Todd Porter, Belinda Stanger, and Alaina Rupe.
I think you get the idea.
Your challenge this week is to drop the Love Bomb. Start with just one, but if you get addicted, send out a whole mess of love bombs this week. They are good for everyone. One of the things I want to point out is that there are lots of love languages – service, touch, gifts, time, and while these are all options that can be included, this is a verbal challenge – this is about first and foremost having a conversation with a person you love and sharing what you love about them and why. This kind of detail is like a rich chocolate cake – it’s heavy and it lasts and people know you mean it because it’s not just a flippant “Love ya,” it gets into the details.
If you want your own copy of the 21 LIFE Connection Challenges so you can record your experiences in the book – it’s workbook style, hop on Amazon or hit up loveyourstorypodcast.com for a link to Amazon to get your own copy.
We’ll see you in two weeks for our next episode. And I’d love to hear about your experience with the challenge – leave a review on apple podcasts or send me an email @ firstname.lastname@example.org with Challenge 6 in the subject line.