Episode 211: Healthy Co-Parenting: Interview with Jae Behrman and Amanda Louder

Episode 211: Healthy Co-Parenting: Interview with Jae Behrman and Amanda Louder

Welcome to the Love Your Story podcast. Today I have an interesting duo. A divorced couple who had 3 children together. After their divorce they needed to heal and grow individually, but they also had to immediately co-parent. This is an important topic, because for children of broken homes, how this co-parenting is done can make a huge difference in how much baggage the children take away, in how secure the children feel with life, even how loved the children feel. I haven’t heard someone talk about this before so I’m looking forward to today’s conversation.

In 2011 Jae and Amanda filed for divorce. Stay tuned to find out why. But more importantly, stay tuned to hear a story of growth and positive co-parenting and what that looks like. 

Join the audio for my discussion with Jae and Amanda for the answers to some of these questions:

Tell me just a little bit about who each of you are today, then we’ll jump backward in time to get your story.

Jae – What did you learn about yourself from your first marriage? What have you done to heal and grow?

Amanda – What did you learn about yourself? What have you done to heal and grow?

Jae – How is Amanda better now? What growth have you seen?

Amanda – How is Jae better now? What broth have you seen?

Did you always co-parent well together? What does that look like for you guys?

When did you make this choice to co-parent carefully and positively and what does it look like to co-parent with someone who has hurt you?

Why is co-parenting well so important to our children?

Individual thoughts on change, growth, and forgiveness after divorce.

I have two quotes I want to share. The first is from Oprah Winfrey. She said,

“We can’t become what we need to be by remaining what we are.”

Our dark days, the break-up of a family, the dissolution of a relationship, especially these times can be wake-up calls, the fast track to growth, if you let it.

The second quote is from Bernice Johnson Reagon, She said,

“Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.”

Keep creating a story you love through continued growth. Nobody gets it all right the first time. It’s a process. 

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See you in two weeks for the next great inspirational episode where stories show us the way forward.

About the author, Lori

Lori is the host and producer of the Love Your Story podcast, a podcast dedicated to sharing candid interviews and conversations about living our best life stories on purpose. Lori pulls no punches in capturing interviews that shine a light on how we make it through the hard stuff – stress, anxiety, suicide, eating disorders, rape, the death of children, abuse, divorce and the real stuff we have to deal with. But, she also shares interviews with Olympians and incredible athletes, life coaches, therapists, and people who are changing the world – most often these two categories are one and the same. She has a master’s degree in Folklore--her research focuses on the personal narrative. She is the author of six books and over 100 magazine and newspaper articles, including her latest, L.I.F.E. – Living Intentional and Fearless Every Day. She consults with individuals on a personal and business level in helping them find their stories, reframe the ones that are holding them back, and manage the stories they currently tell themselves in order to create the story they personally want to live.

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